The questions to ask yourself before you ask anyone else.
Two free resources, drawn from 25 years working in divorce and 2,000 cases. Use them to figure out where you actually stand — before you spend a dollar on legal fees, before you have the conversation you can't take back, before you make a decision you can't undo.
INTERACTIVE TOOL
The Divorce Readiness Self-Assessment
Twenty questions across five dimensions — emotional, financial, logistical, co-parenting, and process. Most people who take it discover the gap they didn't know they had.
You'll find out where you actually stand across the five readiness dimensions, the single weakest area you'd want to address before doing anything else, and what "ready" actually looks like — and what it doesn't.
Takes about 8 minutes.
Free. No login required. Your answers stay on your device.
FIELD GUIDE
The 7 Most Expensive Mistakes People Make in the First 30 Days of Divorce
The patterns I've watched cost people their savings, their custody time, and years of recovery. Most of them happen in the first month — before anyone has hired a lawyer, before anyone has filed anything. They're invisible until it's too late.
Inside: the seven mistakes ranked by how often they happen and how much they cost, the reasoning behind each one, and the single piece of advice I'd give someone the day they first say the word "divorce" out loud.
Free. Sent to your inbox immediately.
Why I’m Giving These Away
Most people facing divorce don't need a lawyer yet. They need to think clearly. They need to understand what they're walking into. They need to know what the questions are before they pay someone $400 an hour to answer them.
These resources won't replace a lawyer. They won't replace a consultant. What they will do is make sure that when you talk to one, you know what you're talking about — and you don't waste the first three sessions catching them up to your own situation.